From the age of six, children can begin to get complicated. They begin to pay more attention to small limitations that may have already realize certain physical defects that may not like them. Many of these complexes are caused by feedback can make at school other children in her class; but fortunately not always, nicknames at school age usually something common. Therefore, one of the main questions parents are asking is: What if my child starts getting complex? Either by a physical characteristic of his or her personality.
Some children are more sensitive than others to insult or criticism, so it is important for parents to pay attention to child behavior. That is, pay attention to whether your child is quieter, more serious, if not go to school, if you prefer to stay at home instead of going to a friend’s birthday, if not sleep well at nights etc. We must give it the importance it deserves, but do not turn your life around that problem.
There are no two the same classes, no two children are alike and each one behaves and feels differently. There is one more sensitive than other children, some are concerned with the negative comments from other children and others come to have a normal, or near normal psychological development and social functioning. Therefore, we must place special emphasis on the need to create environments for personal growth and confidence that encourage and provide relevant facts to their self-esteem by making them increasingly resistant to negative events around them. Thus, it is important to differentiate between the risk factors that increase the likelihood that the child suffers or receives a greater impact on their self-esteem, and protective factors to these situations.
Risk factors would do much emphasis on aesthetics in general, failure in social relations, poor academic performance, a pathological fear of rejection and low self-esteem and self-concept. On the other hand, protective factors are: self-confidence, believing that one can influence what goes around, believe that you can learn from both the positive and negative experiences, partner support and family support, a good self-image and self-esteem, sense of humor and creative solutions to the same situation.
It is important to observe the behavior and try to tackle the problem as soon as possible because sometimes it may happen that the complexes have begun in childhood endure during adolescence and consolidate as adults. When these complexes cause an upset is significant and concern for a defect perceived physical appearance is situated unusual and exaggeration can lead to body dysmorphic disorder.
The attitude of parents
Something essential is that parents do not encourage complex. Sometimes parents are insecure people and instill inadvertently that insecurity in their children. Sometimes children complexes are induced by the parents. For example, parents who sojourn for consultations if child nutritionists to lose weight or parents who promise their young, very young age, cosmetic surgery when they are older.
It is important that parents always act as a reference model, because for children, parents are always examples for them and more at this age.
If parents suspect their child may have some complex, the first thing they should do is to listen, you listen carefully for the child to feel completely cared for and understood. It is crucial that the child feel heard and supported by his parents, then go go little bit dismantling your problem. For example, pointing out the good things we have.
On the other hand, it is essential that parents educate themselves on tolerance and respect for differences. There are interactive stories for children that are very useful. Something very positive in these cases,”the person is to remember that some of their idols have the same characteristics (eg. Harry Potter has glasses), so that they identify and comforted.
It is also advisable to use this situation to continue working with a child social and emotional skills in order that new ways to respond to the criticism, for example playing a different role-playing or putting personal anecdotes that have happened to loved ones are learned.
In addition to these recommendations, the essential in the education of children is for parents to help them work their self-esteem. Parents should educate their children in safety, fostering in them a good self-esteem and praising his virtues. It is very important that children are able to look at the positive side of things, realizing that they also do good things and have.